Nobody will want to hear what I’ve got to say...
Updated: Nov 24, 2021
This is a guest blog by Abigail Rogers, a business & mindset coach and hypnotherapist. To find out more about how Abi helps women get their head in the game for life and business success, you can visit her website www.abigail-rogers.com.
"Nobody will want to hear what I've got to say"
How many times have you said something like that to yourself?
And what’s it stopping you from doing in your business right now?
Do you avoid blogging, or posting on social media, because you feel like everything you want to say has already been said? Or maybe you just don’t think what you’ve got to share is good enough, or interesting enough. Would anyone actually bother to read it?
You’re not alone - this affects SO many people. In fact, I’d say it’s probably the number one thing my clients need help with - other than procrastination, which, let’s face it - ties in with this nicely!
Actually it’s no coincidence that procrastination and ‘imposter syndrome’ go hand in hand. Because our subconscious brains are hard-wired to keep us stuck and ‘safe’ - they hate change and they really hate the thought of potential humiliation. So one of the ways our subconscious mind stops us taking action is by finding other, less useful things to do… and the other is telling us all sorts of scary stories or emotional arguments as to why we shouldn’t bother.
So we might tell ourselves things like:
It’s all been said before
I have nothing interesting to contribute
Everyone else sounds so intelligent and like real experts - who’s going to be interested in my opinion?
What if I get shot down for even having an opinion?
And we focus so heavily on all the things that could go wrong and all the reasons we shouldn’t try, that we talk ourselves out of even giving it a go.
But do we ever stop to ask what could go well? Or to think about things from a different perspective?
Here are 3 powerful mindset shifts which might just get you thinking differently.
1. It’s not about WHAT you’ve got to say
Yes - there’s a lot of information out there and the chances are somebody has covered what you have to say before. But they haven’t given it your unique spin. What makes the difference is often not what you say - it’s how you say it.
‘Oh, great, so now I have to try and be unique?’.
No. The wonderful thing is - you don’t have to try! Just allow yourself to free flow, without thinking too hard about trying to fit a particular mould or style - and you’ll naturally bring your own wonderful spin into the equation. And people WILL want to read it.
Sure, the content may be similar - but people listen to voices they resonate with. And after all, you don’t need everybody to be interested in what you’ve got to say - just the people you really want to communicate with! So don’t be afraid to bring your personality and experience in, because that’s what people are really looking for. Facts and figures - they’re all very interesting, but they’re not really what we connect with.
Nobody can be ‘you’ better than you.
2. There isn’t quite the info overload out there that you might think
Do you sometimes feel like you can’t move for experts in your field? That might not necessarily mean everyone else is experiencing the same.
It’s worth remembering that you will naturally be drawn to noticing content that feels relevant to you (i.e. competitors in your industry), and filtering out everything else that’s going on in the world. Why? Because our minds are magnets for whatever we focus on.
Have you ever noticed that you hear a new phrase once, and suddenly it’s everywhere? Or maybe if you’ve ever been through a breakup - suddenly everywhere you turn you see happy couples? It’s all down to the part of the brain that filters your experience - the Reticular Activating System.
It’s incredibly useful when we really want more of something in our world - but can lead to a skewed perception of reality, too. So just because your newsfeed is flooded with competitors, it doesn’t mean everyone else’s looks the same… or that they’re paying attention in quite the same way as you!
And if you’re in the right place at the right time, you might just be the first one to make them sit up and take notice.
3. You’re probably not giving yourself the credit you deserve
We are SO good at putting ourselves down! It’s something we’re very much brought up to do - societal training, if you like.
The trouble is, we subconsciously believe everything we tell ourselves - and the more we tell ourselves the same thing, the deeper that belief becomes.
How many times have you turned down a compliment? How many times have you felt guilty, berated yourself for something you haven’t done or reflected on just how rubbish you think you are compared to everyone else? Every time you do this, it reinforces those feelings of inadequacy and over time, you lose sight of just how wonderful and skillful you really are.
A wonderful way to flip this around is to start focusing on your achievements instead. Create a list of all your good qualities. All the great decisions you’ve made, all the wonderful things you’ve done - and all the times your opinion HAS been listened to and valued.
This is a really powerful confidence boost and eye-opener. And hey, it might even give you some great ideas for topics you could cover!
Which brings me on to one last, bonus tip:
4. Commit and the words will come
Another thing that really puts people off starting a blog, email list or social media schedule is the fear that they won’t have anything to say.
This is where that brain of yours is a wonderful, reliable machine - and if you trust it, it will back you 100% of the way.
The moment you stop thinking about whether you’re going to do something and mentally commit to making it happen, your brain will jump on board and start coming up with ideas. This was a big concern for me before I launched my Facebook group Align your Mind for Limitless Success almost a year ago - but luckily I knew this little quirk of the subconscious mind, so I trusted I would make it work. And so far - my mind has never let me down!
If you’d like a little free mindset & coaching support to grow your business by the way, I’d love to welcome you to the group.
I hope you’ve enjoyed the read and if you have any questions or you’d like to chat about how you can overcome your mindset blocks for good, please feel free to get in touch through www.abigail-rogers.com